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I could not understand at all what had just happened to me and reading these article, specifically this cycle, is like watching my life as though it was a bad movie. He met off charming and then the insults and subtle put downs would happen. Relationship violence can happen anywhere to anyone of any race, religion, culture, or economic status. Without intervention, the frequency and severity of the abuse tends to increase over time. She will need zip to create a new life for herself so that she can overcome temptation to return to the relationship. Stress builds and communication breaks down.

The Cycle of Domestic Violence In 1979, psychologist Lenore Walker found that many violent relationships follow a common pattern or cycle. The entire cycle may happen in one day or it may take weeks or months. It is different for every relationship and not all relationships follow the cycle—many report a constant stage of siege with little relief. The victim tries to control the situation by pleasing the abuser, giving in or avoiding the abuse. None of these will stop the violence. Eventually, the tension reaches a boiling point and physical abuse begins. However, some experts believe that in some cases victims may unconsciously provoke the abuse so they can release the tension, and move on to the honeymoon phase. He expresses remorse, tries to minimize the abuse and might even blame it on the partner. He may then exhibit loving, kind behavior followed by apologies, generosity and helpfulness. He will genuinely attempt to convince the partner that the abuse will not happen again. This loving and contrite behavior strengthens the bond between the partners and will probably convince the victim, once again, that leaving the relationship is not necessary. This cycle continues over and over, and may help explain why victims stay in abusive relationships. The abuse may be terrible, but the promises and generosity of the honeymoon phase give the victim the false belief that everything will be all right.

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